It’s easy, as an adult, to see all of the positive and exciting aspects of moving to a new house – maybe it’s bigger and you have more space - maybe you’ll finally have that home office you’ve always wanted. Perhaps it’s closer to work and you won’t have to endure a grueling commute any more, or it’s in a great neighbourhood close to many of the things you enjoy.
It’s also easy, as an adult, to not be as hung up on the downsides of moving away. You can keep in touch with friends on social media or pick up the phone, and you also have the freedom to drive wherever you’d like. It’s also likely that the people you see each day, like friends and co-workers, aren’t going to be left behind by your move.
But it’s a completely different story for children, who might only be able to think about everything they’re leaving behind and won’t be able to get back to so easily – including friends, school and memories. Here are some tips to make it as easy as possible on them:
Be as helpful as possible when it comes to your kids’ ability to reconnect with old friends, whether this means creating a budget for long-distance telephone minutes or planning weekend sleepovers with their friends back where you used to live.
Involve your children in the new home as much as possible. Get them excited about their new backyard and bedrooms, and bring them along to walkthroughs as much as possible. Try to take tours of the new neighbourhood so they can see all of the things they may be able to do when you move.
Stay positive. Don’t act like you’re delivering bad news when you talk about the move, make it exciting instead.
Listen to your children. Despite your best efforts, moving could still be an upsetting experience for them, and they should be allowed to vent and explain their frustration.